Dating & Domestic Violence
Definitions to Know
is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic Violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economical, or psychological or threats of actions that influence another person.
is a document that is signed by a judge that offers civil protection from domestic violence.
For information about the different types of protection orders and how to obtain a protection order in the state of Ohio, please
Domestic Violence Includes the Following
- Emotional abuse
- Sexual abuse
- Physical abuse
- 1 in every 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been a survivor of (some form of) physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime.
- Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner.
- On a typical day, there are more than 20,000 phone calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide.
*Statistics from Ncadv.org
Questions to Assess if You Are in an Abusive Relationship
- Are you frightened of your partner’s temper and walk on eggshells around him/her so he/she does not explode?
- Does your partner isolate you from your family/friends?
- Does your partner control what you do, what you wear, or where you go?
- Do you express your opinions and state your needs less and less?
- Are you afraid that your partner would kill himself/herself if you left him?
- Do you do what your partner says in order to avoid trouble?
- Have you been forced to have sex against your will?
- Have you been hit, choked, locked up, slapped, shoved, threatened, tied up, burned, or bitten?
- Does your partner act extremely jealous?
- Does your partner blame abusive behavior on alcohol or drugs?
- Does your partner destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
- Does your partner humiliate you or yell at you?
- Does your partner embarrass or make fun of you in front of your family or friends? Put down your accomplishments or goals?
- Does your partner act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
Why People Stay in Abusive Relationships
- Economic and financial dependence
- Religious, cultural, or societal views
- Any attempt by the survivor to consult authorities is seen as a threat to the abuser and the victim may be battered for her/his attempts for help
- May think that no one will believe her/him
- The survivor may think it is her/his fault
- The honeymoon period: the batterer may be loving, apologetic, quiet, and seem sincere