• LGBT Center Meet n Greet!

    Meet n Greet 2014

  • SafeZone at Subamuh

  • Homecoming 2014

    cheers and queers!

  • Georgiann Davis speaks on Intersexuality

  • awesomeness!

  • awesome students!

  • lgbt center staff

    lgbt center staff

  • Daniel Hernandez visits OU

  • Students with Harvey Katz

    National Coming Out Day 2014

  • SafeZone at Chillicothe Campus

    SafeZone at Chillicothe Campus

Defining Ourselves

"I ascertain that I am homosexual. Okay that's no cause for alarm. How and why are idle questions. It's a little like wanting to know why my eyes are green." -JEAN GENET

"I like the word gay, though I think myself more as queer. I believe the strength in my work comes from that perspective - my being an outsider." -HOLLY HUGHES

"Being queer is like being on a lifetime assignment as a secret agent in some foreign country." -NORETTA KOERTGE

"The universe is lot only queerer than we imagine, but it is queerer that we can imagine." -J.B.S. HALDANE

"Putting a label [homosexual] on myself was a big step forward...once I said, 'Yes, that's me, that's what I am,' I was able to work with it." -BARBARA GITTINGS

"I don't want to be labeled as either a pansy or a heterosexual. Labeling is so self-limiting. We are what we do - not what we say we are." -MONTGOMERY CLIFF

"I know I'm not a man...and I've come to the conclusion that I'm probably not a woman either. The trouble is, we're living in a world that insists we be one or the other." -KATE BORNSTEIN

"Because of our situation, God has given us an opportunity to almost transcend our gender, which gives us a vision and sensitivity that other people don't have. They think that being white and male is going to save the world; but life is not The Lion King." -JASON REEVES

"Everyone wants to be a dyke now; everyone craves our freedom, guts, and knowing looks." -SUSIE BRIGHT

"Lesbianism represents a commitment of skin, blood, breast, and bone." -CATHERINE R. STIMPSON

"Didn't you always want Wonder Woman to be a dyke?" -STEPHANIE MADYUN

 "Lesbians and other oppressed people have a bigger burden to bear because the rest of the world spends a lot of time telling us we should feel bad about ourselves." -NANCY LANOUE

 "It's one thing to be a lesbian; it's another thing to be a bulldyke." -CYNTHIA TORELLI

"A minority is only thought of as a minority when it constitutes some kind of threat to the majority, real or imaginary. And no threat is ever quite imaginary." -CHRISTOPHER ISHERWOOD

"Outsiders develop humor as a defense; why do you think most comedians are gay or Jewish?" -PAUL LYNDE

"Straight society is really down on blatant gays, and that affects and oppresses all gay people, because gays won't be treated as beautiful human beings until even the most 'flaming faggots' and 'diesel dykes' are respected in our community, as well as in straight society." -BRIAN CHAVEZ

"If homosexuality is a disease, let's call in queer to work. 'Hello, can't work today, still queer." -STEPHANIE STRONG

"I know I can't tell you what it's like to be gay. But I can tell you what it's not. It's not hiding behind words, Mama. Like family and decency and Christianity." -ARMISTEAD MAUPIN

"...gay people are smarter. If you weren't smart you wouldn't figure out what it was. You'd probably grow up, get married and just think that you liked your buddies a lot and that your wife was a lousy lay." -ERIC TOWNES

"My struggle has allowed me to transcend that sense of shame and stigma identified with my being a Black gay man. Having come through the fire, they can't touch me." -MARLON RIGGS

"Homophobia is easier for black people where black people are concerned. They feel they have the right to correct me on my behavior. There is this notion that homosexuality is something that white people do." -DAVID MCALMONT

"Just because I like to suck cock doesn't make me any less American than Jesse Helms." -ALLEN GINSBURG

"Every man should own at least one dress - and so should lesbians." -JANE ADAMS SPAHR

"Not all gays respond to the same stuff. Would Alexander the Great have loved Auntie Mame?" -BRUCE BAWER

"I didn't choose to be black or to be born female, however I am quite proud and happy to be both. I don't believe that people choose their sexual preference, and they have every right to be proud and enjoy their sexuality. You all may not think it's the same type of thing, but from where I stand and what I see discrimination and oppression feels and looks just as ugly. Now, let's move on."

Beyond The Closet

"The single most important thing you can do politically for gay rights is to come out. Not to write a letter to your congressman but to come out." -BARNEY FRANK

"Every gay person must come out.... Once they realize we are indeed their children, we are indeed everywhere, every myth, every lie, every innuendo will be destroyed once and for all." -HARVEY MILK

"It is better to be hated for what one is than to be loved for what one is not." -ANDRE' GIDE

"If you want to look like the people next door, you're probably smothering yourself into your dreams." -CLIVE BARKER

"Saying someone is gay who is gay no longer constitutes defamation or slander or libel. You cannot defame someone by telling the truth." -LARRY KRAMER

"Nothing has happened to me out of the closet that was anywhere near as dangerous as being closeted." -KAREN THOMPSON

"The closet symbolizes isolation, the individual without society, a stranger even to the self." -KATHY WESTON

"By staying closeted we make ourselves invisible; by coming out we shatter the popular illusion that the whole world is heterosexual." -ROMANOVSKY AND PHILLIPS

"We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when adults are afraid of the light." -PLATO

"Being out means doing what your grandmother told you to do, which is not to lie." -BARBARA SMITH

"There are many lesbians and gay men trapped by their fear into silence and invisibility, and they exist in a dim valley of terror wearing nooses of conformity." -AUDRE LORDE

"The moment you can learn to deal with homosexuality in art, it's quite an exciting moment, just as in a sense when people 'come out' it's quite an exciting moment. It means they become aware of their desires, and can deal with them in a remarkably honest way." -DAVID HOCKNEY

"I have learned that coming out is a daily process, not limited to where we live, who we're linked to, or how we conduct our lives. It is understanding your place in the world, born of your own family; it is entwined with your personal ideas and the goals you set. Alas, these things are ever-changing, and you have to keep discovering new ways to exist as a gay or lesbian person while making your life whole." -TOM CURTICE

"Slowly but surely, gay people are coming around to the idea that if you continue to be invisible, that's all you will be, and it's not a nice life." -BEV CLARK

"When I see young men and old women come out of the closet and face being called faggots and dykes and pariahs and betrayers of the family dream, then I am honored to be gay because I belong to a people who are proud." -ARNIE KANTROWITZ


"Other people get money for being married; they get health benefits for being married; they get money for having children. When we want to be able to kiss and hold hands on the street without being beaten up, suddenly we're asking for special rights." -MARK FISHER

"I'm not willing to just be tolerated. That wounds my love of love and of liberty." -JEAN COCTEAU

"People can tolerate two homosexuals they see leaving together, but the next day they're smiling, holding hands, tenderly embracing one another, then they cannot be forgiven. It is not the departure for pleasure that is unacceptable, it is waking up happy." -MICHEL FOUCAULT

"By aspiring to join the mainstream rather than figuring out the ways we need to change it, we risk loosing our gay and lesbian souls in order to gain the world." -URVASHI VAID

"The more we demand that institutions allow us to be who we are, the more they're going to have to." -STEPHEN HERBITS

"It's time we did something to assert ourselves. After all, we do comprise 10% of the population."

"If you can't raise consciousness, at least raise hell." -RITA MAE BROWN

"I became an activist to reconcile myself, and to give voice to experiences of oppression, and to resist the slow death of silence and inaction." -CARMEN VASQUEZ

"Real love cannot be silent in the face of injustice." -MEL WHITE

"Sometimes you have to speak your mind rather than mind your speech." -ANONYMOUS

"When people put down feminism and gay rights, they always talk about 'family' and 'morality.' That's bullshit; what they're talking about is power." -LOWELL BEAN

"Do you want to protect your children from gay influence? Very well. Destroy the Mona Lisa and The Last Supper, silence Messiah and Swan Lake, and burn Moby Dick and The Portrait of a Lady. Gay culture is all around you - and it belongs to everybody." -BRUCE BAWER

"It takes no compromise to give people their rights...it takes no money to respect the individual. It takes no political deal to give people freedom. It takes no survey to remove repression."

Love and Friendship

"In itself, homosexuality is as limiting as heterosexuality: the ideal should be to be capable of loving a woman or man; either, a human being, without feeling fear, restraint or obligation." -SIMONE DE BEAUVOIR

"...of two simple men I saw today on the pier in the midst of the crowd, parting the parting of dear friends, the one to remain hung on the other's neck and passionately kissed him. While the one to depart tightly pressed the one to remain in his arms." -WALT WHITMAN

 "You must know that I am, of all men who were ever born, the most inclined to love persons. Whenever I behold someone who possesses any talent or displays any dexterity of mind, who can do or say something more appropriately than the rest of the world, I am compelled to fall in love with him; and then I give myself up to him so entirely that I am no longer my own property, but wholly his." -MICHELANGELO

 "I think people who make checklists are the most miserable and alone because they are looking for the perfect Entenmann's that is delicious and has no calories. Please, you want a brunette with a sense of humor, a doctorate and HIV-negative status? Good luck, honey. Love isn't so frequent that you can put conditions on it." -PAUL RUDNICK

"There was something stubborn in me that didn't want to lose weight to attract a man. If the right man came along, he'd be able to see my virtues magically. Once he kissed me, the frog would turn into a prince. I had become a trick question, a heavy disguise, but behind the disobliging exterior was the welcoming child I would always be. Of course, what I'd forgotten was that he was not Parsifal and I was not the Grail; the medievalism of my imagination was not sufficiently up-to-date to recognize that the lover was a shopper and I a product." -EDMUND WHITE

"A relationship should be part of your life, not your life." -WILD SIDE MAGAZINE

"There is this illusion that homosexuals only have sex and heterosexuals fall in love." -BOY GEORGE

"While dykes struggle to decide whether to celebrate the day they met, their first date, their first sex act, or the date they fell in love, gay men generally do not have this dilemma, because all of these events took place on the same glorious day." -MERYL COHN

"What we are is a crime, if it is a crime to love, for the god who made me love." -PAUL-JACQUES-AIME' BAUDRY

"I am the love that dare not speak its name." -LORD ALFRED BRUCE DOUGLAS

"It is that deep spiritual affection that is as pure as it is perfect. It is beautiful, it is fine, it is the noblest form of affection. There is nothing unnatural about it." -OSCAR WILDE

"I just want to be loved. Is that so wrong?" -HARVEY FIERSTEIN

Sex and Beauty

"Oh! If only we were naked now, and free to watch our protruding parts align; To whisper - both of us - in ecstasy!" -ARTHUR RIMBAND

"I felt very close to God.... My friends say that's because I was always on my knees."

"What a handsome face he had: but if he were naked you would forget he had a face, he is so beautiful in every way." -PLATO

"One should either be a work of art, or wear a work of art." -OSCAR WILDE

"When I finally realized that I didn't want to be a butch, I wanted to sleep with a butch, a whole new world opened up before my eyes." -LESLEA NEWMAN

Straight Folk

"Gay people are not in the habit of thinking of ourselves as leading our civilization, and yet we do." -JUDY GRAHN

"Most gay bashers will be wearing what gay people had on four years earlier - only in polyester with a Penney's label." -PAUL RUDNICK

"The way straight people see it, they're raising the next generation of factory workers so they don't have much sympathy for frivolous, shopping homosexuals and greedy lesbians with two houses." -JAMES TURCOTTE

"Straight men need to be emasculated.... Every straight guy should have a man's tongue in his mouth at least once." -MADONNA

Family Matters

"Home is where the heart is, no matter how the heart lives." -SALLY FINGERETT

"He pressed his forehead against mine, clasped me around my waist, and said henceforth we were married." -HERMAN MELVILLE

"Marriage is a long, dull meal with dessert served at the beginning." -OSCAR WILDE

 "Gay, Lesbian, Bi, and Straight, we are the community and family of God, and we are here knowing God loves us."

 "My mother said to me, 'Why do you have to call yourself a dyke? Why can't you be a nice lesbian?' 'Because I'm not a nice lesbian, I'm a big dyke.'" -LEA DELARIA

"All I know is this: If you and papa are responsible for the way I am, then I thank you with all my heart, for it is the light and the joy of my life." -ARMISTEAD MAUPIN

"Gay men and straight men have much more in common that do gay men with lesbians or straight men with straight women. Every man must define his identity against his mother. If he does not, he just falls back into her and is swallowed up." -CAMILLE PAGLIA


"I'm a gay person so I don't live in a free country." -ANONYMOUS

"I don't understand how you cannot know you're gay. Everybody masturbates. Obviously, you think about something." -MATTHEW GARCIA

"It's the job of the young to push the societal envelope." -JEANNE CORDOVA