Rules for Building Self-Confidence
- Focus on your potential instead of your limitations.
- Determine to know the truth about yourself.
- Distinguish between who you are and what you do.
- Find something you like to do and do well, then do it over and over.
- Replace self-criticism with regular, positive self-talk.
- Replace fear of failure with clear pictures of yourself functioning successfully and
- Dare to be a little eccentric.
- Make the best possible peace with your parents.
- Determine to integrate the body and spirit.
- Determine to live above neurotic guilt.
- Cultivate people who help you grow.
- Refuse to allow rejection to keep you from taking the initiative with people.
"There is probably no other habit that chips away at our self-confidence so
effectively as the habit of scanning the people around us to see how we
compare." [page 25]
"The combination of attributes that constitutes us will never be duplicated. If
this is true, and if it is true that we are created by God--an original by a
master artist--it makes the exploration and development of that uniqueness an
item of the highest priority." [page 26]
"Our responsibility is to take the talents with which we find ourselves and
ardently parlay them to the highest possible achievement." [page 28]
"We will have a strong self-image only when we identify our talents and use
them diligently." [page 60]
"There is nothing more common than unsuccessful people who have talent, and
for many of us, the problem has not been a difficulty in discovering an area of
natural aptitude. Rather, it has been in the development of that skill. It is the
boring, repetitive sharpening of our skills that will place us beyond the masses.
"Creativity implies a certain amount of freedom of expression, abandon, a
refusal to worry about what other people are thinking, an ability to laugh at
oneself. And for those qualities to grow, one must have a relaxed connection to
the memory of one's failures." [page 141]
"I know of no single step one can take to enhance self-confidence that is as
important as building a network of accepting, loving relationships." [page 160]
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