Nicole Egger, Bisexual
Senior, Social Work
INVOLVEMENTS AT OU:
President of ALLY (member, 2008-2012) and OU Marching 110 (freshman & sophomore years)
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO BE OUT?:
It is important to be out so you can let other people who may be struggling with their gender identity or sexual orientation know that there are other people out there who understand and have gone through the same thing. Being out on campus allows other LGBTQQIAA students know that there are people here who have their back and support them.
WHY ARE YOU PROUD?:
I am proud because I have been able to rise above the fear of coming out, and I have in turn, been able to finally feel like myself. I felt like I was taking a giant, vulnerable leap and I'm so glad that I did. I am also proud of the fact that I have been involved in the LGBTQQIAA community on campus.
WHAT WAS THE MOST DIFFICULT PART ABOUT COMING OUT?:
The most difficult part of coming out was when I came out to my mom. The overall feeling that the people I love and care about might not accept me anymore, based on just one aspect of my life that doesn't even define me, was terrifying.
WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO OTHERS WHO COME OUT?:
Coming out is hard, but worth it. Some people may have a giant support group, but sometimes it is not as easy. I know personally that the LGBTQQIAA community on campus will embrace you with open arms when you are ready. Regardless, you need to be brave, and be proud of who you are. You are unique and special and you should not have to compromise your happiness just because you identify as something other than the hetero-normative Barbie and Ken heterosexual.
THOUGHTS FOR NON-LGBT PEOPLE ABOUT LGBT PEOPLE AND CONCERNS:
My thoughts for those who are non-LGBT are to stay conscious of your words and actions, attend LGBTQQIAA events to help educate yourself about a community that is different than your own, be open-minded and accepting, and be the person to your friends and others that you would feel comfortable confiding in.