Andrea M. Manning, Lesbian
Resident Director, Residence Life

INVOLVEMENTS AT OU:
Here at OU, I am an active Resident Director.  I advise my hall council and also the Residence Action Council.  I also participate in the Division of Student Affairs on the Professional Development Committee.  For some fun, I like to go to the basketball games and work out at Well works.

WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO BE OUT or TO BE AN ALLY?
It’s important for me to be out because that is the only way that I can truly support the gay community. I want to be a strong, positive role model for them and also actively advocate for their needs.  I feel that it is important to represent the LGBT community and it is hard to do that in the closet.

WHY ARE YOU “PROUD”? WHAT ARE YOU MOST “PROUD” OF?
I am proud.  I am proud that I decided to come out to my friends, parents and myself.  It is very difficult to accept who you are and it is important to be proud of the accomplishments you make.  It is also hard to put yourself out there.  Understanding yourself is a huge accomplishment.

WHAT WAS THE MOST DIFFICULT PART OF COMING OUT?
The most difficult part of coming out is getting over the fear of doing it.  Once you are able to get your fear out of the way it is easy.

WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE TO OTHERS WHO COME OUT?
My advice is to find a friend or a network that will support you before you come out.  Seek out those who you feel safe around and also read about coming out.  Read about being gay, and educate yourself.

THOUGHTS FOR NON-LGBT PEOPLE ABOUT LGBT PEOPLE AND CONCERNS:  Be an advocate.  Learn to understand by asking questions.  Don’t be afraid you will offend anyone by asking questions.  If you fail to ask,you are failing them as a friend, ally and advocate.

ADDITIONAL COMMENTS:
I am here for you.